gradientlair:

#LoveMeLike is a beautiful and affirming hashtag started by @Blackamazon with over 6,000 tweets published where Black women spoke honestly about the type of love we need and deserve. This wasn’t just about romantic love in a heteronormative frame (especially for me as an ace) as some would expect but about love as affirmation of humanity, as power and as justice, which would include that aforementioned frame and much more. The Huffington Post's Black Voices featured the hashtag and included my first tweet above in the article Hashtag #LoveMeLike Takes Twitter By Storm As Black Women Share Empowering MessagesTo see all of the tweets sent from everyone, not just my own on my own blog, click the hashtag link above.

The hashtag surfaced after a few Black men asked what do Black men love about Black women and unfortunately many (not all) of the replies only mentioned Black women as objects of labor or loyalty, not as humans worth loving outside of service. @Blackamazon asked:

Black women, how do we want to be loved? How do we need to be loved? Because we can love Black women. But do we love Black women enough to honor their requests, their self determination? It’s easy to love something when you feel it can’t make demands back but LOVE, loving someone to be the best they want to be? 

One complaint that I saw surface was that the conversation was too “political.” I mentioned this:

Personal is political. If you think love—especially for Black women—doesn’t involve the political, you’ve gotta re-examine the last four centuries. When Black men name reasons they don’t love Black women, most are shaped by patriarchy and the White Gaze. And those two things are political. How love is expressed is more than sexual romantic and matters for Black women more than just dating. Thus, to claim Black women are “forcing” feminism into love? No. If lack of love we receive is shaped by oppression, we need anti-oppression terms. Anti-oppression is inherently personal. There is no way to remove my need for humanity and freedom from discussions on love.

Of course self-love is critical, but self-love alone is not justice. Again, love is more than romantic, sexual, or heteronormative. Love isn’t about “earning” humanity through “respectability,” through others’ perception of Black women having "enough" self esteem to be deemed lovable or having our humanity on trial to just to gain basic respect. Black women knowing how we want to be loved matters. 

I found this tag to be very moving and affirming and I’m glad to have been a part of it. It’s a womanist act to see ourselves worthy of love and to be able to name what that love looks like, especially since Black women being denied our humanity, let alone love, is standard in this oppressive society.

Love me like you have the willingness to affirm what I’ve stated here for myself and for other Black women who relate without the need to derail this post or harm me. 

"Without justice there can be no love." - bell hooks

gradientlair:

This is lovely and awesome. It’s a GIF from a thank you video that Lupita made once she reached one million Instagram subscribers. 

gradientlair:

This is lovely and awesome. It’s a GIF from a thank you video that Lupita made once she reached one million Instagram subscribers. 

mecksickan:

So you just gonna bring me a birthday gift on my birthday to my birthday party on my birthday with a birthday gift?

mecksickan:

So you just gonna bring me a birthday gift on my birthday to my birthday party on my birthday with a birthday gift?

If your ideas are bigger than the town you’re in, you’ve got to get out of there.
Brian Fallon (via the-blues-mary)
continuants:

look i made a cat gif! (source)

continuants:

look i made a cat gif! (source)

crissle:

ctron164:

bisouchocola:

Welp.

Boop !

#SayNoToFuckboys

crissle:

ctron164:

bisouchocola:

Welp.

Boop !

#SayNoToFuckboys

Anonymous
asks:
There was this really pretty girl walking today she was light skin the sun was shining she said she did not want to be in the sun so she wouldnt get dark then she pointed to me and said like that girl over there i know im dark and ugly what do i do

allbeautifulblackgirls:

What do you do? All you can do, in my opinion, is have pity for people who think like her and stop thinking you’re ugly.

"Dark and ugly" is an oxymore. You can’t put these two words in the same sentence. ;)

This makes me want to cry. For the dumb bitch that would be so hateful

afroindia619:

How cute are they? He is swangin’ too! :-)

jamehcook:

i srsly dont give a fuck about frozen

beyonceish:

today i saw a scene couple in the hallway at school and the girl literally stopped kissing him so she could scratch his face and meow into his ear and he barked back i do not pay taxes for this shit 

girljanitor:

shoddyshit:

afrohoney:

A mix of nature to create beautiful afrocentric street art

2real

:0 <3

hoe-bana:

Me when I have kids